1.
When did you first discover your affinity for domination?
I was very young, maybe seven or so, and
discovered a twisted poem the classic children's
book Mother Goose called, “The Old Woman Who lived
in a Shoe”. It goes like this:
There was an old woman
Who lived in a shoe.
She had so many children
She didn’t know what to do.
So she gave them some broth,
Without any bread,
And spanked them all soundly
And sent them to bed!
Accompanying the poem was an illustration
of a child lying over her lap with his pants pulled
down so you could see his bare bum (his red bare
bum!) with tears sprouting from his eyes as she
spanked him. She was quite strong and had a strict
look on her face. Some kids were heading into the
shoe, holding their bottoms and crying, while others
were lined up fearfully awaiting their spanking.
I was captivated and couldn’t look away
from the image. I wanted to be involved! And I was:
I played the requisite “House” and “Doctor” games
with neighborhood kids and was always coming up
with reasons why someone or other needed to be spanked-
for medical reasons or otherwise.
2. Was it just a phase or did it continue?
Just like I was innately drawn to spanking,
I believe I was “hard-wired” with an affinity to
playing with power dynamics. I developed a melancholic
streak and an attraction to violent drama very early
on. This dark side of My nature manifested itself
in BDSM fantasies where the roles of characters
were very clearly defined by those who had power
and those who did not. I drew My secret fantasies
on paper and felt very passionately about their
situations. These melodramas were enormously captivating
to Me. One fantasy that I really loved to daydream
about was imagining that there was a secret “Spanking
room” in all homes –hidden by a rotating bookshelf-
where people were punished. I loved imagining the
ritual of people being scolded, made to undress
and spanked. Oh the humiliation!
I also had fantasies involving kidnapping,
sexual torment, medical play, and the requisite
angry lover dramas. Essentially, My mind delighted
in passionate, cruel and arrogant characters who
broke with the rules of “normal” life.
3. Did you get to live out any of your fantasies
aside from tricking the neighborhood kids into spankings?
I did. I found the classroom and school
ground ripe with those who hadn’t yet discovered
their submissive natures. One memory of a boy named
Charlie stands out particularly. Charlie was a bully.
He was always picking on the smaller kids in school,
being physically abusive and generally obnoxious.
I was raised with very strong female role models
and wasn’t intimidated by what I thought was his
big bluff. One day I stopped him from pounding on
a little nerd and in response, he spat in My direction
and dared Me to cross a line he’d drawn in the dirt.
When I stepped across it immediately- he was taken
aback (keep in mind that at 13 years old, I was
six feet tall and strong)! Charlie and I made lame
attempts to punch each other, and we ended up rolling
around on the ground. I managed to mount him and
hold him down and when I did, one of My elbows connected
with his nose. He got freaked and started crying
when his nose started to bleed and I told him that
he’d better apologize to the kid he’d tried to hurt
so I wouldn’t hurt him anymore. And so he did. He
apologized and then turned tail and ran home.
From that day on, Charlie’s superior status
as a bully had been lost and the tables aptly turned
on him. I was always thinking of ways to get Charlie.
In fact, My little friends and I used to set “Charlie-traps”
where we’d ambush him and torment him. One of My
favorite games was pouncing on him when he least
expected it (kind of like Peter Sellers’ Asian housekeeper
in “The Pink Panther”) and pummeling him, making
him do silly things or just giving him a beating
after wrestling him to the ground. I’d tease him
by sucking spit in and out of My mouth over his
face… sometimes I’d let it drop… other times not.
One time I tied him to a tree with his pants pulled
down while My girlfriends and I laughed at him (his
parents weren’t very happy with Me). But it was
all part of My grand plan to demoralize Charlie.
The interesting thing is… Charlie began
to change. Far from abhorring the attention, Charlie
began to accept his new found status as My little
plaything. He began to be easier and easier to catch
and always seemed to be walking home from school
very slowly…
4). Did your teachers reprimand you for picking
on Charlie?
No. In fact, the teachers seemed amused
by this new turn around in attention he received.
One teacher would even tell Me if she noticed that
Charlie had done something rotten. And My homeroom
teacher was a short man who got flustered when I
stood by him (I was six feet tall at thirteen) -so
he never tried to stop Me. In any case, I was a
very good student and other than tormenting Charlie,
was a bit of a teacher's pet.
5) Did you go to college?
Yes! I love school and have three degrees
in separate fields: A BA in Criminology, an Associates
in Applied Science and a BFA in painting. I’ll never
give up going to school entirely and always endeavor
to learn new things. I also love traveling and have
been to all seven continents including Antarctica!
6) Kindly tell me about your name.
It’s pronounced “Sev-AIR-uh”. The root is
“severe” and it’s Roman in origin.
7) Why do you capitalize “M”
It is proper etiquette for a Dominatrix
to refer to Herself with capitalized possessive
pronouns while slaves are always lower case- for
example, “slave john is Mine”. It is considered
extremely bad form to write to Me in cap locks or
to refer to Me as “u”.
8) I noticed you were a professional athlete- in
which sport?
I’ll give you a hint… it starts with a “B” and it’s
not bowling!
9) How tall are you and what are your measurements
and Ethnic background?
I’m 6’5” (194 cm) – and
close to 7’ tall in heels!
My weight is between 180- 185 lbs.
Bust/waist/hips: 44 DDD, 31”, 40”
Biceps: 13”
Thighs: 23 ½”
Calves: 15 ½”
Inseam: 38 in.
Hands: pinky to thumb is 9 ½ in., long finger to
end of hand is 8”
Shoe size: 12 wide or 13- depending on the make
of the shoe.
Eyes: Green
Hair: naturally blond.
Background: Scandinavian and German descent.
10) What’s the favorite part of your body?
I like the unusually high arches of My feet-
which look like abstract sculptures.
11) What’s it like to be so tall?
Wonderful. I’ve always felt very comfortable
in My skin and particularly enjoy the power dynamic
of towering over men. I never get tired of walking
into crowded elevators or bars and having men look
up at Me (one of those "shock and awe"
things).
12) Have you always been interested in sports?
Always. Growing up, I was a competitive
equestrian and later, a National team and pro-ball
player. When I moved to New York City, I felt like
something a little different and joined an internationally
renowned Brazilian jiu-jitsu school. BJJ is submission
style wrestling with evil and sneaky joint locks
and chokes. It's intimidating and hard and is absolutely
humbling, but once I tried it, I was a believer.
It’s been about five years now and I’m
absolutely passionate about jiu-jitsu. BJJ is very
technical and requires an understanding of leverage
and weaknesses in the body. I train as much as I
can- about five times a week in group classes with
men and have attained the level of purple belt (it
goes white, blue, purple, brown, black). I feel
very proud of this accomplishment and endeavor to
keep improving My skills.
13) Do you do competitive wrestling in sessions?
Regarding wrestling in sessions… wrestling
in sessions is a bit different than wrestling in
jiu-jitsu- which is a controlled environment. I
do competitive wrestling all the time at My academy
with people who know what they’re doing and who
stop before they injure others. Competitively wrestling
a man off the street doesn't compel Me. People who
don’t know how to wrestle and who power out positions
can be a real hazard: their knees, elbows and fists
tend to be all over the place.
My preference is to leave the hyper-competitiveness
at the academy and enjoy sessions with men who appreciate
strong women. Ultimately, the bottom line with Me
is respect – regardless of the activity.
14) So do you like wrestling in sessions then?
Love it! Wrestling is one of the quintessential
forms of domination and is a perfect leeway to many
other activities- such as scissors, role play, tickling,
teasing, smothering, breath play, spanking, height
comparisons, bondage, body worship, punching, kicking,
ball-busting, stomach-punching, face-slapping, trash-talking,
cross- dressing etc! First and foremost I love to
have fun and I love wrestling because I enjoy using
My body as the weapon of choice instead of relying
on total submission and implements to do the trick.
Before there was BDSM, there was wrestling. Wrestling
is very primal and close to nature. With wrestling,
I can actually physically make someone do something
I wish instead of commanding him to do something-
and to this day, that still gives Me a thrill.
15) When did you begin actively playing in the scene?
When I retired from pro-ball, I lived in
Europe for a few years and developed My interests
in the underground German, Amsterdam and London
scenes. The British are uniquely pervy and uninhibited
and I loved being a voyeur on their scenes. It was
a real education in itself to discover all the different
fetishes out there! I had always thought I was alone
in My predilections and it was very empowering and
gratifying to discover I wasn’t.
16) I noticed that you lived in New York City for
ten years. How did that come about?
I had just returned from Europe and received
a call from an agent I’d done some modeling for
in L.A. He said that the “Maury Povich” show was
doing a bit on opposite attractions and were looking
for tall girls who liked short men. I actually dated
a few short men in My time and had a friend in the
city I wanted to visit, so I agreed to be a guest.
I came to the Big Apple and it suited Me so well
that I stayed for a decade!
17) How did you become involved in the BDSM scene
there?
One day, I was thumbing through the phone
book when I noticed a very intriguing ad about the
“Taurel Institute”. The ad described a woman named
Ava Taurel and described her as a counselor, educator
and coach to people who wish to assert their personal
and sexual persona whether it be for their own personal
relationships or performance in the media.
I called her up and told her a bit about
Myself and asked whether She was looking for any
new Dominas (after all, it seemed a perfect fit
for My personality)! She said She wasn’t – and I
said… “Did I mention I’m 6’5”?” She said, “What?
You must be kidding Me!” And the rest is history.
Ava took Me under Her wing and was My mentor and
adoptive mother for the next ten years.
I cannot even begin to describe what an
important and lucky turn in the road this was for
Me. Ava was completely unique: the daughter of a
Russian Prince, a former film star in Mexico, a
journalist, a photographer, a director and a Dominatrix
who lectured to audiences around the world. She
began one of the first BDSM studios in New York
and helped introduce the masses to this formerly
taboo form of play.
Ava was brash and shameless and sophisticated
and wonderful and asked impertinent questions about
sex! She would talk to anybody and introduced Me
to academics and poets and porn stars and directors
and totally shaped My growth. She taught Me the
right way to dominate and that “unless you are comfortable
with who you are sexually, you will not be truly
at ease in any other aspect of your life. Positive
sexuality must be in harmony with the deeper part
of yourself.”
Unfortunately, Ava died tragically in
the spring of 2006 and it was a huge and sudden
blow to all of those who knew Her. I feel very grateful
to have met Her and hope that I can honor Her memory
by carrying on the things She taught Me in sessions
and life in general.
18) What are some of the other lessons that Ava
Taurel taught you?
Ava was very serious about using the dynamics
of power exchange to create a transformative experience
that is not simply recreational, but above all,
therapeutic and uplifting. Essentially, role play
must be based on mutual respect and be pleasurable
and growth oriented for both parties. When someone
makes an appointment to meet Me, he must truly have
something to offer Me that will make the experience
enjoyable. I must connect with the individual and
have an experience that I will love just as much
as the other person! I definitely have My own boundaries
and expect them to be honored- just as yours will
be.
As time marches on, I have become firmer
and firmer about this as My general philosophy of
domination, and turn down plenty with whom I don’t
feel a connection. I know Ava would be pleased to
see that.
19) I noticed that you have just moved to San Diego.
How did that move come about?
There's a saying that a person should "Live
in New York City- but leave before it makes you
hard, live in California, but leave before it makes
you soft"! I love New York City. It's been
a wonderful place for Me this past decade... however,
ten years is a long time to be somewhere. I like
to feel the winds of different places blow on My
face and felt like the time had come to move on
after Ava died and I graduated from school. Besides...
I feel like in a sense I've "made it"
in NYC: I've been on page six of The Post's gossip
column, was in the catalog of the Sex Museum and
have established Myself in the business enough so
that I can travel or live anywhere that I like.
San Diego is the opposite of NYC: beautiful,
quiet, sweet, friendly- and it provides respite
from the hard grittiness of NYC which is very much
"in your face". Here, I can go to the
beach anytime I like, listen to birds... listen
to silence!!! I've found a great new place to do
Brazilian jiu-jitsu and am considering going to
graduate school. Plus, I'm really looking forward
to meeting a whole new crowd of kinksters! I've
been out in the social scene here a bit - through
"Club X", and everyone has been very warm
and inviting. Nice!
20) How will new people know if their interests
are compatible with yours?
I like to get to know people in depth prior
to meeting, and have an application on the “Sessions”
page of My website which prospective playmates must
fill out. This questionnaire allows Me to ascertain
whether our needs and interests are mutually compatible.
21) Any advice for people who're meeting you for
the first time?
Be extraordinarily polite
and think carefully about what you write Me.
22) What are some of your rules and things you don't
do?
I refuse anything outside the realm of sane,
safe and consensual and will not participate in
any activity that is directly sexual or which is
not sanctioned by specific State and federal laws.
I do not tolerate drugs, alcohol or poppers- either
prior to a session or during. I will not engage
in mindless humiliation, or any activity which is
not constructive. What I AM interested in, is seeing
someone who is open minded and willing to take risks
when he feels comfortable. I prefer clients 30 +
years and older and they must understand that seeing
Me in a session is not about how I can serve you-
it’s about how you can serve Me. The premise of
this is to honor the Goddess- and ultimately all
women.
23) Do your subjects have to be submissives? What
if they’re just “normal” guys who aren’t into any
of that “whips and chains” stuff and simply like
tall, strong women?
First of all, the stereotype of Dominatrixes
being uniformly cruel is not based on reality. In
order to understand individuals and to be able to
relate to them, one must have something called empathy.
More often that not, people just need a safe environment
in which to express their desires. There’s a flip-side
to being cruel- and that is kindness. The two mixed
together are far more powerful than relentless sadism.
Secondly, I’m a versatile, multi-faceted person
with many “normal” height worshiping friends. I
love to have fun- whatever the fetish! However,
bear in mind that, while a fellow may not be submissive,
I do not tolerate “bossy bottoms” or people who
expect Me to follow scripted scenes to the word.
I’m open to the fantasies of others, but ultimately,
am a dominant woman and expect a playmate to be
mindful of his manners. Be forewarned that I am
immovable when it comes to My boundaries. Filling
out My application truthfully will assist in taking
away the mystery of whether we’re compatible.
24) Why would you want to hurt people?
There is a big difference between pain which
is sensual, and pain is hurtful. Context is everything.
I’m a very caring individual. However, in the context
of consensual adults engaged in BDSM, pain obviously
has its place. Pain is corrective. Pain is healing.
Pain is freeing. And pain is fun!! For clients who
are into sensual pain, we have a detailed discussion
prior to the discussion to discuss limits and normally
establish a “safe word”.
25) Why would a nice, smart girl like you do something
like this?
Who says I’m nice? I do this because this
is what I really enjoy to do. Clearly, not everyone
will understand what I do. There are many opportunities
for others to misconstrue My world. However, for
Me, I’ve always known it’s not so important how
others view Me- but how I see Myself.
26) What would you do if you were independently
wealthy?
Who says I’m not? Regardless of wealth,
I would continue to do exactly what I am doing because,
as I said, I’m hard-wired this way. This is who
I am and what I enjoy.
27) Do you look down on Your submissives or people
who come to see you?
At 6’5”, I regularly look down on everyone!
But if you’re talking about judging people… no.
Definitely not. I applaud submissives, fetishists,
wrestlers and admirers alike who have the courage
to explore and live out their fantasies. I really
enjoy the company of men and in helping them fulfill
needs that traditional relationships often make
difficult to express. I feel it’s very important
to achieve harmony between your fantasies and every-day
life- with no feelings of guilt or shame. Playing
this way can be healing and empowering. What could
be better? It’s My personal and unique contribution
to making the world a better place.
28) What are your facilities like?
I accept bookings out of Domina Angelina's
amazing dungeon in San Diego! You can look it up
at www.dungeonservitus.com. It's wonderful- I couldn't
have equipped and decorated it better Myself and
am thrilled to be there. It's fully equipped for
all forms of play -BDSM, wrestling and otherwise,
and of course, has a private bathroom and shower.
It is upscale, private, discreet and impeccably
clean.
29) What are some of your favorite sessions?
My favorite type of sessions aren’t contingent
upon the activity -but on the person. I love it
when My playmate totally gives in to the experience
by committing to his role and trusting Me. When
he does the scene can be transporting! I live for
sessions like these.
30) What sort of fetish attire do you own?
Ever since I was a little (relatively) girl,
I loved dressing up in costumes. Imagine how thrilled
I am to still be able to dress up all the time!
I have an extensive fetish wardrobe including pvc,
rubber and leather. Everything you see Me wear in
the member section of the site, is Mine and not
borrowed for shoots. I have a plethora of corsets,
waist cinchers, bras, skirts, dresses, business
attire, lingerie and stockings- as well as a multitude
of shoes, boots and much more. Whether you’re into
a super hero, an evil spy, the girl next door or
the traditional leather-clad Dominatrix, I have
the outfit!
31) Are any of your clothes or personal items available
for purchase?
Absolutely. You’re welcome to make Me an
offer on any item of clothing you desire! I won’t
always accept your offer- but you’re welcome to
make it!
32) How would you describe your style?
I am polite and quietly confident- not someone
who yells. However, I can and I will turn up the
heat for any reason I deem necessary.
33) Do you
ever become friends with your session playmates?
I prefer to develop an interpersonal relationship
with My clients and am interested in getting to
know them in depth! I’ve known some people for 10
years and longer and have explored a multitude of
fantasies with them. However, first and foremost,
I am a subversive therapist and as such, there are
important boundaries. Do not expect that W/we will
become bosom buddies or chat on the phone.
34) Do you ever travel for sessions?
I occasionally tour major cities around
the U.S. and Europe to do sessions. (Kindly see
My “Travel” section for details). On a very select
and special request basis, I will come see you,
provided that all travel, accommodation, time and
related expenses are provided for. Please email
Me with any travel requests and specify whether
you are expressing interest in a session if/when
I travel to your city or if you are interested in
having Me visit on a “special request” basis.
35) Should I bring a gift for you when I see you
in session?
A gift is always an effective way of demonstrating
your sincerity and for establishing your credibility.
I enjoy the Chanel fragrance called, “Allure”, the
Nars lipstick called “Damage” candles, lotions,
ancient Roman “Severa” coins, and gift certificates.
36) Can I send you gifts or fan letters in the mail
even if I can’t see you in person?Of
course! My address is:
Severa Enterprises
315 South Coast Highway 101, #746
Suite U, Box 68
Encinitas, CA 92024
37) Can I join your site if I don’t have a credit
card?
Yes. You can send a postal
money order or cash to Me directly- see address
above- or, in lieu of that, you can join via another
location on the web. Email Me directly for specific
information about this and about other questions
not addressed at: GoddessSevera@yahoo.com.
38) Your pictures are tremendous. Who is your photographer?
Thank you! I have the occasional guest photographer,
but My main photographer is Paul Colliton- and I
feel very privileged to be working with him. Paul
has photographed some big guns like Muhammed Ali,
Bill Gates, Tom Waits and many other recognizable
names and celebrities- including some infamous ones!
He has a beautiful penthouse studio in the middle
of Manhattan with a view of the city and the Empire
State building- and we love shooting in and around
it. Check out his website to learn more about him
and get a bird’s eye view of the space: www.collitonstudio.com.
I AM looking for a photographer/videographer
in San Diego- so if you know of someone talented
and fetish-friendly, please let Me know!
39) Are you looking for new models to be in your
shoots?
Constantly! If you’re an experienced, of
age player, (no total novices please), I’m definitely
interested. Kindly send Me a head shot and body
shot as well as your subbing resume. Let Me know
whom you’ve served before, your stat’s, whether
you’re comfortable showing your face and appearing
stark naked, where your interests and talents lie,
what your limits are, if you have any acting experience
etc. I’m really only interested in people who can
totally commit to a shoot and who will sign an extensive
model release as well as providing two copies of
photo ID as required by law.
40) Do you have any favorite quotes?
The only people for me are the mad ones,
the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to
be saved, desirous of everything at the same time,
the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing,
but burn, burn, burn, like fabulous yellow roman
candles exploding like spiders across the stars
and in the middle you see the blue center light
pop and everybody goes ‘Aww’.
Jack Kerouac
Thank you for taking
the time to answer my many questions Goddess Severa
My pleasure! I hope to meet you for an
in-person session one day- and until then, I welcome
you to enjoy My member site! |